Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Stop The Blame Game!

He that covers his sins shall not prosper: but whosoever confesses and forsakes them shall have mercy. (Prov. 28:13) 

Let's not kid ourselves. When we deliberately choose not to stay positive and deny joy a place in our lives, we'll usually gravitate in one of two directions, sometimes both---the direction of blame or self-pity. . . . 

The aggressive attitude reacts to circumstances with blame. We blame ourselves or someone else, or God, or if we can't find a tangible scapegoat, we blame "fate." What an absolute waste! When we blame ourselves, we multiply our guilt, we rivet ourselves to the past (another "dangling" unchangeable), and we decrease our already low self-esteem. If we choose to blame God, we cut off our single source of power. Doubt replaces trust, and we put down roots of bitterness that can make us cynical. If we blame others, we enlarge the distance between us and them. . . .We settle for something much less than God ever intended. And on top of all that, we do not find relief! 

Strengthening Your Grip 

With so many crazy things happening all around us, I can only imagine how much finger pointing is going around as well. In my personal experience, I couldn't even begin to explain how many times I have had fingers pointed at me. To be honest, some of that finger pointing was justified. I also have to be honest about the moments that some of the finger pointing wasn't justified. 

In those instances that the finger pointing was justified, I took personal responsibility for those situations and have learned from them and grew more in godly wisdom (not just human wisdom). I have also learned alot in the situations that weren't justified. I have learned that there are lots of insecure people that will do anything to try to get themselves over at the expense of someone else. It is in those instances in which the blame game can turn malicious. The blame game can range anywhere from something as subtle as indifference to as straightforward as outright hatred. Regardless of what the blame game looks like, it needs to stop. It needs to stop not only only for someone else's sake, but for your sake as well. 

My dear friends, in the long run, the blame will run its course and there will be lots of negative consequences as a result of the blame game. Before pointing the finger at the next person, make sure you have all the facts before pointing the blame to that person. There is so much more to the whole blame game than just a "small" physical gesture of pointing the finger at someone. It has a whole lot more to do with the spirit of the finger pointing. What is your attitude toward the person you blame? Is your attitude centered on God's righteousness or in your own selfish ambitions? Before pointing the finger at someone, make the following statement to yourself: 

He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. (John 8:7)

That verse alone should remind us of the fact that all of us are to be blamed for one thing or another. So friend, want to stop the blame game? Ask God to help you break anything that will get in the way of having a fulfilled relationship with God and man. Ask God to humble you in a manner that is worthy of being called a blameless man. Be bold and be encouraged my friend! 

Thank you so much for reading this far my friends! May God continue to bless you and keep you in Jesus' mighty name! JESUS LOVES YOU AND SO DO I!!!!. . . . :-).